In the wake of the sexual misconduct accusations against yet another man in power — this time, Sen. Al Franken — Elizabeth Sampat and a friend commiserated about how hard the last few months have been with the onslaught of revelations about sexual harassment and assault. As one man on Facebook tried to defend Franken’s actions, the two women found themselves commiserating over more than just the celebrity backlash. They were tired of how men in their lives reacted, too. Sampat, a game designer and activist, asked herself how she would respond if someone she loved had humiliated an unconscious woman for a photo, as Franken did. How would she explain to them what they had done wrong, and how would she want them to react? Those questions led her to making “Am I Part Of The Problem?,” an interactive tool created with Twine designed specifically to help people apologize and make amends. If the last few months have proven anything, it’s how many people — even those in power, but especially those at the top — grapple with how to apologize. Harvey Weinstein, the catalyst for wave after wave of sexual misconduct revelations, released a statement full of excuses and hollow promises. A declaration about setting out to conquer one’s demons, however, cannot undo decades of real, lasting damage to women. Actor Kevin Spacey delivered a mea culpa coupled with a coming-out statement that dangerously conflates homosexuality and pedophilia. Comedian Louis CK’s apology, while acknowledging that the accusations made are true, is still a bloated, self-aggrandizing, self-pitying missive. As one poor excuse for a “sorry” gives up its place to the next, it’s not just hard to swallow. It’s the sort of crazy-making pattern that incites both fury and exhaustion. Why is it so difficult to deliver a truly useful apology? The answer is a complex one, but Am I Part of the Problem? offers a step-by-step examination of intent and harm. “You're here because someone felt hurt by your actions, whether or not you intended to hurt that person,” its baby blue text reads. “Whether you intend to harm someone does not change whether that person was harmed. But: intent is still real, and it matters.” It